“The power and intensity of your contractions cannot be stronger than you, because it is YOU” -Unknown
When I was pregnant with my first child, I knew I wanted to have a natural birth, but looking back now, I realize how little I knew about the nature of childbirth. How it is about trusting in yourself and knowing it is an intuitive process.
I watched all the Birth Stories on television, every video I could get my hands on and read every birth book on the bookstore shelves. I followed my baby’s progress and knew everything there was to know! or so I thought…
While I thought I had prepared myself academically and new the physical nature of birth was going to be “labored” I wasn’t prepared emotionally. My daughter decided to come 3 weeks early so all I thought I knew went out the window and I was left to the mercy of the Doctors involved. Scared and clueless I let them control my birth and did EVERYTHING they suggested. I narrowly escaped a C-section and did deliver vaginally but had I had a doula or educated support person advocating specifically for me, my birth would have gone very different. My daughter was born healthy with minor complications, so all turned out well, but I vowed any future births would be on my terms if at all possible. My point is, interventions robbed me of what my body intuitively knew what to do. It quickly became clear that because of self doubt and the pressure of “What’s best” from the doctors, I had allowed myself to be directed into a very clinical birth the first time around. I didn’t empower myself to trust my body and what it was made to do. Don’t get me wrong, I have no regrets from my first birth and the doctors were doing their job and what they thought best for both me and my baby; and the outcome was my healthy baby daughter. I completely understand that medical intervention is sometimes necessary, but had I known there were options my birth might have been different.
My second and third births were very different. Both were natural and included a midwife and a doula, even though both were at hospital. With my second and third births my body, pregnancy and birth became more than just a condition of my body; I saw it as a complete physiological process that I could welcome with an open mind, spirit, and body. I was able to understand not only what I needed to do, but I now had the confidence in my ability to do it, and the support I needed as well.
It has become my mission to share how truly empowering one’s birth experience can be. Providing full awareness of how many options they have within their own birth plan and especially in pain management and if complications arise. I want them to know their options so that they can decide what is right for them. Birth is the beginning of an amazing journey. It is about learning your strengths and empowering yourself to trust in your body. It is knowing you are capable of great things.
What a blessed life I have, accompanying families through pregnancy, birth and postpartum. There is nothing more beautiful than watching one surrender to the beauty that is birth, to overcome fears and push past doubt to embrace the love that is labor.
I find myself time and time again, in sheer awe of the birthing journey, from conception to birth to postpartum. Every parent-to-be transforming through this right of passage. I am so blessed to bear witness to this beautiful process. Finding themselves on the other side of what they were as individuals, now becoming a parent and creating a family. I am truly blessed and filled with love and admiration at every birth.
I can’t imagine doing anything else… With Love and Gratitude Always